I want to actually like the person I’m dating
Romance is important to me, but I don’t want it to be the only thing holding two people together.
Attraction can make the beginning of dating feel exciting very quickly. But once that initial rush settles down, I think a simpler question becomes important: do I genuinely enjoy this person?
I want to laugh with someone, tell them random things, ask their opinion and enjoy spending time together even when there is no special plan.
That does not make a relationship less romantic to me. It makes the romantic part feel more grounded.
My ideal is probably simple: someone who feels like a partner and also like one of my favourite people.
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